Sunday, April 23, 2006

Narcissists, Or Why I Hate the Phone

I think I've had the same conversation with this person at least one hundred times.

And every time I do, I get annoyed all over again, especially since I know, even as the words are leaving my mouth, that the person on the other end of the phone is intrinsically incapable of hearing them. I can't stop myself from trying to say it all one more time, and I still feel rejected and inarticulate when, once again, my voice is unheard.

And, just for the record, I'm right, and I have been all along. Thirty years and counting, not that I keep track, or anything.


Bev (BB) said...

I'm debating between mother or mother-in-law . . . ;p

And believe me, I know the feeling.

Marianne McA said...

Not knowing the situation, I don't know if this is apposite, but my older sister once gave me some advice on dealing with our younger sister. She suggested that I think of her difficulties as a disability. Somehow it works: when I look at it in that light, I'm much less tetchy.

Suisan said...

Bev: You have a good chance of being right. And at least some chance of being wrong. ;P

Marianne: Mostly I'm patient and nod a lot. Then when I'm no longer patient, I really boil. On the other hand, once I simmer down, I do find much to laugh at. I'll get there soon.

Doug Hoffman said...

It's your mom, isn't it? (If I had written this post, it would be my mom.)

Suisan said...

Yeah, well, Doug, I'm not _that_ old.

And, for the record, now I'm back to thinking it's all funny. So I must be over it.

CindyS said...

My best friend is horrible for this and quite frankly I have learned that Sue will ask and ask and ask your opinion on something until she gets the answer *she needs* to hear. Bob has said before, some stranger can tell her what she needs and she'll tell you how so and so said she was fine.

It's maddening I tell you but, what can you do. I have learned to remove my emotional stake from the situation and it's hard because most of the time it's about my Godkids and there are days where I would like to take a rock and ...

Okay, I've said too much ;)

I wonder what I do to annoy people?